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Summer Vacation Vexes

Don't let travels stress you out. Plan a trip that relieves your worries.

SUMMER VACATION. Nothing calms a frenzied mind more than the thought of a relaxing escape-until the reality of planning one sends you into an international state of stress. Where to go and stay? Who has the best day spa? What activities will the whole family enjoy? Who will watch the dog? How will the office manage without me?

Navigating travel details can make the most intrepid spirit want to stay home, but Kathleen Hall, Ph.D., founder and CEO of the Atlanta-based Stress Institute and author ofA Life in Balance: Nourishing the Four Roots of True Happiness, says the antidote to a stress-free vacation is simple (take a deep breath): It's all about planning. "Without a de-stressing plan, we react to uncertainty and become hypervigilant, which creates a spiral of descent," Dr. Hall says.

Here, the stress expert offers advice on how to reduce common vacation irritations so your trip results in rest, not regret:

Build itinerary consensus. For a family vacation, Dr. Hall suggests everyone get on the same page about the destination, hotel, activities and budget. "When everyone is involved in planning, it creates the right attitude from the onset and helps to manage conflict down the road," she says. "It also eliminates the 'blame game' if a negotiated plan fails to fulfill someone."

Forget Rome in a day. Trying to jam too many sightseeing attractions and activities or canvassing multiple destinations during one trip is misery guaranteed, says Dr. Hall. "It's exhausting and makes everyone irritable."

Create personal space. The world is your oyster, but traveling with family members can make you feel as if you are choking on one. Dr. Hall recommends planning shared trip activities as well as factoring in "me" time to pursue personal interests, perhaps one to three hours each day. For instance, if you're traveling in the U.S., schedule a massage at one of more than 600 Massage Envy locations. "Individuals need to honor their own space so that the family doesn't become overwhelmed."

Get real, not lost. Vacation should equal relaxation-and fun. Set realistic expectations and don't lose yourself in the picture-perfect travel ideal portrayed in glossy postcards. "It doesn't exist and you'll just end up disappointed," Dr. Hall says. "Rather than trying to create a black-and-white experience, view it as an odyssey or adventure."

Set boundaries. Establish parameters with co-workers, the pet sitter-anyone you're indebted to back at home-about if, how and when you will stay in contact. Then set a time for checking and following up on e-mails and voice messages. "It makes everyone anxious if you are not clear how this will be handled," Dr. Hall says. "Once you do, it creates a sense of personal power and reinforces fun."

Expect the unexpected. No amount of planning can prevent a universal travel truth: Stress happens. Plane delays, long airport security lines, closed restaurants and hotels not meeting your standards. Yet, you can manage your reaction to things that are out of your control. When Dr. Hall and her husband traveled with their young daughters, she would put a positive spin on unforeseen events by saying: "Well, isn't that interesting?"

Beware of vacation baggage. According to Dr. Hall, everyone goes through disorientation the first week after vacation. "Expect some loneliness and isolation as everyone resumes their routines," she says. "People also tend to evaluate their jobs, family dynamics and marriage. Be aware that you are in transition, and that frustration, anger and judgment might surface. Humans don't process feelings well, but don't ignore them. Writing in a journal helps me work through my emotions after a trip."

And keep in mind that jet lag can exacerbate your murky mood-give your body and mind time to readjust by scheduling a post-trip Swedish massage.

-By Sally J. Clasen

Massage Envy Magazine Summer 2010

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You're Not Alone

Have you experienced post-vacation blues? According to a study conducted by Trip Advisor, 56 percent of U.S. travelers surveyed said they often get the post-vacation blues upon returning from a trip, and 44 percent admitted to feeling down following their 2009 summer vacation.

SELF Trip
Survival Checklist

When you pack your sunscreen, don't forget to include your SELF an antistress survival guideline developed by Kathleen Hall, Ph.D., founder/CEO of the Stress Institute:

S- SERENITY. Practice by listening to soothing sounds of nature before traveling and while on the road, and say personal affirmations, like "I love myself," when faced with a challenge.

E- EXERCISE. Take the first step at the airport to reduce stress levels - walk laps on the concourse while waiting for your plane to depart. And get in some fitness before coming home to help reduce the effects of jet lag.

L- LOVE. Connect and call someone you care about, which helps ease your mind as you are about to embark on your adventure.

F- FOOD. Eat, particularly breakfast, while vacationing to help regulate your mood all day. Choose foods high in omega-3 fatty acids-salmon, flax seeds and walnuts - which are proven to increase serotonin levels and calm the brain.

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